The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children
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- Author：Shefali Tsabary
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Summary
It’s a tremendous privilege to raise children， though for a quite different reason than most of us who are parents imagine。
While we think it’s our responsibility to mold and shape our children’s future， the essential premise of Dr。 Shefali Tsabary’s A Call to Conscious Parenting is that our children are born to us to create deep internal transformation within us。
Our children have the power to unleash our egoic behavior unlike anyone else， triggering all of our emotional reactivity。 As， through our intimate relationship with them， we are exposed to our immaturity， they become our most accurate mirror of our own lack of emotional development。 In other words， by inviting us to confront who we are in our relationship with them， our children raise us to be the parents they long for us to become。
Despite our best intentions to raise our children well， in our unconsciousness we pass on emotional legacies to our children that have deep and lasting repercussions。 Bequeathing to them our unresolved needs， unmet expectations， and frustrated dreams， we shackle them in unconscious patterns that shut them down to their own unique being。
To do justice to parenthood， a parent needs to become conscious。 Only to the degree we are willing to transform our own emotional present do we succeed in positively influencing our children’s future。
Dr。 Tsabary asks us to set aside traditional parenting strategies that major in controlling our children and instead find true kinship with their spirits by tuning into who each child is in its own unique essence。 Surrendering to the oneness of the parent-child relationship in this way lifts parenting out of the physical and into the realm of the sacred。
Peppered with practical， hands-on examples from Dr。 Tsabary’s real-life experiences with the countless families she has helped journey consciously together， A Call to Conscious Parenting is a manual for giving our children the opportunity to shine and dazzle with their natural state of being。
While we think it’s our responsibility to mold and shape our children’s future， the essential premise of Dr。 Shefali Tsabary’s A Call to Conscious Parenting is that our children are born to us to create deep internal transformation within us。
Our children have the power to unleash our egoic behavior unlike anyone else， triggering all of our emotional reactivity。 As， through our intimate relationship with them， we are exposed to our immaturity， they become our most accurate mirror of our own lack of emotional development。 In other words， by inviting us to confront who we are in our relationship with them， our children raise us to be the parents they long for us to become。
Despite our best intentions to raise our children well， in our unconsciousness we pass on emotional legacies to our children that have deep and lasting repercussions。 Bequeathing to them our unresolved needs， unmet expectations， and frustrated dreams， we shackle them in unconscious patterns that shut them down to their own unique being。
To do justice to parenthood， a parent needs to become conscious。 Only to the degree we are willing to transform our own emotional present do we succeed in positively influencing our children’s future。
Dr。 Tsabary asks us to set aside traditional parenting strategies that major in controlling our children and instead find true kinship with their spirits by tuning into who each child is in its own unique essence。 Surrendering to the oneness of the parent-child relationship in this way lifts parenting out of the physical and into the realm of the sacred。
Peppered with practical， hands-on examples from Dr。 Tsabary’s real-life experiences with the countless families she has helped journey consciously together， A Call to Conscious Parenting is a manual for giving our children the opportunity to shine and dazzle with their natural state of being。
Reviews
Jana Protic
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I have no words to describe this one。 It can be summed up into 'be present with your children'， but it's explained and so well written through so many different outlooks that it's almost like therapy。 You know you should be present with your children and， overall， throughout life， but it's one thing knowing that and completely other living it。 For that this book gives you many tools and helps you embrace it and have it become something you do unconsciously （pun intended 😁）。 I have no words to describe this one。 It can be summed up into 'be present with your children'， but it's explained and so well written through so many different outlooks that it's almost like therapy。 You know you should be present with your children and， overall， throughout life， but it's one thing knowing that and completely other living it。 For that this book gives you many tools and helps you embrace it and have it become something you do unconsciously （pun intended 😁）。 。。。more
Sarah Chang
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Enjoyed the reframing。 A bit longer than it needed to be。
Catherine Lewis-Smith
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A conscious grandparentAs a grandmother， this book took me back to my parenting days with my son and daughter。 I did okay flying off the deep end at times。 I wholeheartedly recommend this book which will tune you onto a new look at your Children as spiritual beings experiencing their human-ness while trying to figure out relationships with parents。 I have recommended this book to my son and his wife who are growing with a 5 year old and a 10 year old。 I wish them well。 "A conscious grandparent。" A conscious grandparentAs a grandmother， this book took me back to my parenting days with my son and daughter。 I did okay flying off the deep end at times。 I wholeheartedly recommend this book which will tune you onto a new look at your Children as spiritual beings experiencing their human-ness while trying to figure out relationships with parents。 I have recommended this book to my son and his wife who are growing with a 5 year old and a 10 year old。 I wish them well。 "A conscious grandparent。" Catherine L。 。。。more
Renee Taylor
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Great read with some interesting ideas。 Worth reading again in a few years time when my child is older （currently a toddler）， where the advice will be a bit more applicable。
Celine
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This makes my Top 3 of parenting books to read！ I’m not sure it would have resonated and spoken to me as much a year ago when I was spiritually unconscious yet now it makes me wish I had found my way to this sooner to pass on more of the good to my kids rather than unconsciously projecting pain， trauma and fears onto our relationship。 I see myself reading this a few more times in the coming years。 I do wish it elaborated more on scenarios and situations yet also appreciate it leaving room for us This makes my Top 3 of parenting books to read！ I’m not sure it would have resonated and spoken to me as much a year ago when I was spiritually unconscious yet now it makes me wish I had found my way to this sooner to pass on more of the good to my kids rather than unconsciously projecting pain， trauma and fears onto our relationship。 I see myself reading this a few more times in the coming years。 I do wish it elaborated more on scenarios and situations yet also appreciate it leaving room for us to build out our own。 。。。more
Marjorie Silvestrini
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Love it！ Love it！ Love it！What a meaningful book and what a great way to understand our parenting journey。 I’m inspired and encouraged by this book and strongly recommend it to any parent who wants to improve and invest in their relationship with their children。As soon as finished reading it I started again。 It felt like a meditation to me， all the lessons were going deep into my soul and I really want to internalize all the teachings in this book。 So grateful to the author。
Johnny 01234689
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hay， sẽ đọc đi đọc lại để nghiền ngẫm thêm
Catie Splett
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It was okay。 I loved the messages， highlighted， and took a lot of notes。 I learned many new things and appreciated the included reflective questions。 However， at times I found it hypocritical and judgmental。 I wish it was more strengths-based and positive rather than focusing on the negative and what parents do wrong。 Every time the author wrote about the “failure of the parent” it made me cringe。 Also， a lot more could have been added in the infant/toddler section about emotional regulation， bu It was okay。 I loved the messages， highlighted， and took a lot of notes。 I learned many new things and appreciated the included reflective questions。 However， at times I found it hypocritical and judgmental。 I wish it was more strengths-based and positive rather than focusing on the negative and what parents do wrong。 Every time the author wrote about the “failure of the parent” it made me cringe。 Also， a lot more could have been added in the infant/toddler section about emotional regulation， building empathy and awareness， and attachment/bonding。 。。。more
Kreeti Shakya
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I couldn’t read the book beyond 3 chapters。 Nothing wrong or nothing against the book。 Its just my choice in books lately。 The author introduces an important concept about how parenting is as much a growth of parents as it is for the kid and the need to accept the kids as they are。 I agree on that。 I didn’t go through all the other details。 I would rather read a book that teaches me how to handle a toddler or how to teach them to handle their emotions。
Diana Gobar
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Great book - focuses on being present and conscious of your emotions and actions。 I like that it has a lot of teachings or wisdom aligned with spirituality and human connection。 I think we as a society have lost the value in emotional connection and empathy; its definitely affecting families and parenting in a negative way。
Rajat Bansal
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Amazing Book。 She has motivated me to write on applied spirituality！ For a lot of her excerpts， please visit my Book Reviews Blog Post Amazing Book。 She has motivated me to write on applied spirituality！ For a lot of her excerpts， please visit my Book Reviews Blog Post 。。。more
Michael Hiley
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A mustA must read for anyone who's ever had a parent。 So many truths and ways to start implementing conscious parental practices。 A mustA must read for anyone who's ever had a parent。 So many truths and ways to start implementing conscious parental practices。 。。。more
Kelsey
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The best parenting book I have ever read。
Carlos Garay
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I would say this was a healing book， because it helped me to understand the concept of parents' role that was distorted by some of the elders I socialized with。 Even though I am not a parent， the principles will help me to be present for my nephew and be comfortable being。 I would say this was a healing book， because it helped me to understand the concept of parents' role that was distorted by some of the elders I socialized with。 Even though I am not a parent， the principles will help me to be present for my nephew and be comfortable being。 。。。more
Brenda Bergreen
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As a parent trying to be good at the job， I'm constantly looking for solid advice on how it's done。 The advice out there often focuses on details when sometimes we need the big picture。 This book was a great resource to remind us that sometimes it's about us the parent， not our kids。 "Why do they keep doing that grrr？" can be transformed to "how can I better teach them to ____。" It also brings down to earth the "put on your oxygen mask first" advices that floats around out in the clouds。 Parents As a parent trying to be good at the job， I'm constantly looking for solid advice on how it's done。 The advice out there often focuses on details when sometimes we need the big picture。 This book was a great resource to remind us that sometimes it's about us the parent， not our kids。 "Why do they keep doing that grrr？" can be transformed to "how can I better teach them to ____。" It also brings down to earth the "put on your oxygen mask first" advices that floats around out in the clouds。 Parents can fall into a pattern of taking care of their kids while their life falls apart whereas we could use the parenting journey to learn and grow as people which wold have a side benefit of showing/teaching our kids how to be in the world。With all parenting books I think it helps to make notes on take aways and develop our own parenting values。 No one book is going to answer or needs but using books to develop a parenting philosophy seems better than just going to a default based on what we see or experienced。 Intentionality is key。 。。。more
Paula Delgado
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Creo que es un libro que todos los padres debemos leer， yo hubiera querido leerlo antes， con mis hijos más pequeños， tiene un enfoque que me pareció muy acertado， buscamos solucionar en nuestros hijos， aquello que debemos trabajar en nosotros mismos， nuestros hijos son el reflejo de nuestro trabajo interior。
Heidi
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I like most of the authors general parenting/life philosophies， but find some of her writings to be preachy and condescending at times which is why this is not a 5 start book for me。 I listened to it on audible where it was read by the author so perhaps I would have found it more approachable if I had read a paper version？
Sarah
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3。5 stars overall While I got a lot out of this book， there were some places where I was like huh？ like when she says if my kid is acting out I need to ask myself how I have invited my child to behave this way 。。。。。。。。ummmm no。 There are a lot of good parts and I feel the concept is wonderful but as the book went on it felt more and more like the parent must shoulder this great emotional responsibility for children's behavior and ways of acting and I just find that to be a little shaming and off 3。5 stars overall While I got a lot out of this book， there were some places where I was like huh？ like when she says if my kid is acting out I need to ask myself how I have invited my child to behave this way 。。。。。。。。ummmm no。 There are a lot of good parts and I feel the concept is wonderful but as the book went on it felt more and more like the parent must shoulder this great emotional responsibility for children's behavior and ways of acting and I just find that to be a little shaming and off base。But overall I do recommend and I also value self reflection when it comes to our children， I just don't think that's the whole picture 。。。more
hải hằng
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perfect ✨mình nghĩ là cuốn này k nên chỉ được tìm đọc khi những bậc phụ huynh đang chuẩn bị có con cái mà tất cả những ai sẽ làm cha， làm mẹ đều nên đọc từ sớm。
Shalyce
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I am really appreciating the Eastern view of understanding。 I don’t feel like this is an amazing parenting book per-say， but an excellent personal development and self understanding book。 The material I found most beneficial was analyzing patterns and working to understand where they come from so you can do better， particularly in terms of understanding how the way you were parented and your childhood impacts you now。 It left me with a lot to think about。 I also really love the emphasized ideas I am really appreciating the Eastern view of understanding。 I don’t feel like this is an amazing parenting book per-say， but an excellent personal development and self understanding book。 The material I found most beneficial was analyzing patterns and working to understand where they come from so you can do better， particularly in terms of understanding how the way you were parented and your childhood impacts you now。 It left me with a lot to think about。 I also really love the emphasized ideas of living in the present moment and accepting life and those around you， as is。 This is definitely a read I would recommend for someone seeking to understand themselves better。 The actual parenting advice was a bit lacking， but I gained a great deal from the book regarding being a parent/ person。 。。。more
Rachel Shaw
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🎧The Conscious Parent by Dr。 Shefali Tsabary🎧While awaiting Fox’s big debut （only 7 weeks to go 😳） I’ve been devouring any and all knowledge I can about my impending parenthood。My friend suggested we buddy read Conscious Parenting by Dr。 Shefali Tsabary。 So happy she introduced me to this gem。 Tsabary encourages an approach to parenting that supports the development of empathy。 The idea of removing your ego from parenting feels simultaneously inspired and natural。 I would say the book’s only dow 🎧The Conscious Parent by Dr。 Shefali Tsabary🎧While awaiting Fox’s big debut （only 7 weeks to go 😳） I’ve been devouring any and all knowledge I can about my impending parenthood。My friend suggested we buddy read Conscious Parenting by Dr。 Shefali Tsabary。 So happy she introduced me to this gem。 Tsabary encourages an approach to parenting that supports the development of empathy。 The idea of removing your ego from parenting feels simultaneously inspired and natural。 I would say the book’s only downfall is that it is slightly too long。 Many ideas are recycled needlessly throughout。 By the end I felt like it could have been an hour or two shorter。 。。。more
duyenchik
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Nếu ai đã biết về tâm linh một chút thì đọc cuốn này mới ngấm được， vì thực sự nó không phải một cuốn sách dễ đọc。 Đọc cuốn sách này bạn sẽ hiểu việc con đến thế giới này cũng giúp bạn trưởng thành lên rất nhiều， bạn hiểu hơn về mình， về con và có thể giúp bạn chữa lành những tổn thương tâm lí nếu có trong quá khứ do mối quan hệ gia đình gây lên。 Làm thế nào để tạo được một gia đình hạnh phúc， những mối quan hệ lành mạnh trong gd là vô cùng quan trọng。 Và làm thế nào để yêu thương họ？ Điều quan Nếu ai đã biết về tâm linh một chút thì đọc cuốn này mới ngấm được， vì thực sự nó không phải một cuốn sách dễ đọc。 Đọc cuốn sách này bạn sẽ hiểu việc con đến thế giới này cũng giúp bạn trưởng thành lên rất nhiều， bạn hiểu hơn về mình， về con và có thể giúp bạn chữa lành những tổn thương tâm lí nếu có trong quá khứ do mối quan hệ gia đình gây lên。 Làm thế nào để tạo được một gia đình hạnh phúc， những mối quan hệ lành mạnh trong gd là vô cùng quan trọng。 Và làm thế nào để yêu thương họ？ Điều quan trọng là chúng ta phải sống tỉnh thức。 Cụ thể thì rất nên đọc sách ạ 👍 。。。more
Taylor Dervin
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It was alright， it didn't hold my attention。 I preferred her other book "The Awakened Family" as a good beginning dive into healing inner child work， handling triggers， and getting on the same page as your co-parent。 anyone at any age should read it。 This one just didn't hit。 It was alright， it didn't hold my attention。 I preferred her other book "The Awakened Family" as a good beginning dive into healing inner child work， handling triggers， and getting on the same page as your co-parent。 anyone at any age should read it。 This one just didn't hit。 。。。more
Makini
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This was great。 I needed it。 My only criticism is that books like these rarely introduce the concepts of culture or systemic issues like racism， classism and sexism。 While the information was good and there certainly were many concepts I will implement in my own parenting， I kept wondering about how parenting can be extremely cultural。 In some cases the way some people parent their children can also be a product of trying to protect their children from systemic oppressions。 For example， teaching This was great。 I needed it。 My only criticism is that books like these rarely introduce the concepts of culture or systemic issues like racism， classism and sexism。 While the information was good and there certainly were many concepts I will implement in my own parenting， I kept wondering about how parenting can be extremely cultural。 In some cases the way some people parent their children can also be a product of trying to protect their children from systemic oppressions。 For example， teaching hard lessons at home because the world will be such a harsh place for you because you are Black and a woman for example。 Or how having fewer resources in a rich society also impacts parenting。 For example， focusing on achievement because it's the only way we can break the cycle of poverty。 I am not saying that this method of parenting is right （though it was the way I was raised）， I am simply saying that sometimes these books need to address how these things can show up in how we parent。 I need a book that helps me work through those issues。 。。。more
Sophia Boren
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I really enjoyed this book。 She supports the idea that our children mirror us， and that as we treat them with respect they learn to respect themselves and the world around them。 Lots to contemplate， lots of actionable ideas， and of course psychology。 I would recommend to anyone who plans to be a parent。 Or anyone who wants to better parent themselves。
Terra Wood
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Not my favorite parenting book。 I felt like her negative parenting examples were extreme and not at all in line with most parents who would pick up this book。 There weren’t a lot of actionable steps to move forward consciously。 I also disagree with some of her views。 Personally， I find being stuck in traffic for a long time as negative and I think it’s okay to voice that， “yeah， this sucks but it’s where we are now。 how can we make this experience a bit better？” I would also say this isn’t reall Not my favorite parenting book。 I felt like her negative parenting examples were extreme and not at all in line with most parents who would pick up this book。 There weren’t a lot of actionable steps to move forward consciously。 I also disagree with some of her views。 Personally， I find being stuck in traffic for a long time as negative and I think it’s okay to voice that， “yeah， this sucks but it’s where we are now。 how can we make this experience a bit better？” I would also say this isn’t really a parenting book， it’s more of a book that says， “hey， when you work on yourself that flows into your parenting and you become better at it。” But not how to work on yourself。 。。。more
Yasmin
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A good read， though did not expand my knowledge at all。Discusses the importance of a parent avoiding their ego and the way it may affect their parenting。 It discusses the importance of being present， mindful and deliberate in our actions and treatment of children rather than being impulsive and treating them with judgement。 It discusses ways to approach children at the different age ranges in a "conscious way"， though I feel like this did not have to be chapters but pages。 Again， it emphasises t A good read， though did not expand my knowledge at all。Discusses the importance of a parent avoiding their ego and the way it may affect their parenting。 It discusses the importance of being present， mindful and deliberate in our actions and treatment of children rather than being impulsive and treating them with judgement。 It discusses ways to approach children at the different age ranges in a "conscious way"， though I feel like this did not have to be chapters but pages。 Again， it emphasises the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their emotions， and comfortable with themselves and in silence。 It encourages time away from technology so the child feels comfortable and able to be on their own and conscious within themselves。 。。。more
Krystel Dimmeler
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I love this book。 It kick started my self help binge - you think its a book on how to be a parent but eventually you realize its a book on how to parent yourself first。 I went into this book knowing nothing so I loved that it flipped the tables on me。 I gave it 4 stars though only because the last half of the book started to talk about when your children are a bit older。 My child is a lot younger so I wasn't able to apply anything personally just yet。 However， I will probably read it again in th I love this book。 It kick started my self help binge - you think its a book on how to be a parent but eventually you realize its a book on how to parent yourself first。 I went into this book knowing nothing so I loved that it flipped the tables on me。 I gave it 4 stars though only because the last half of the book started to talk about when your children are a bit older。 My child is a lot younger so I wasn't able to apply anything personally just yet。 However， I will probably read it again in the next year or 2 as my child will get closer to the age where I can communicate with him the way that Dr。 Tsabary outlines。 。。。more
Becky
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So far， the most insightful parenting book I've read。 I love this book and highly recommend it。 So far， the most insightful parenting book I've read。 I love this book and highly recommend it。 。。。more
Aubrey Taylor
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